She claimed her husband and a few friends believed she was developing feelings for her client.
My friend wasn’t mad that people thought she was dating an employer, instead she was upset when people thought she had a “thing” for a man with a disability.
A friend had called my office complaining he had been rejected as a client by a new matchmaking service in town.
After I talked with him, I decided to try and sign up as a client, too.
When I called, I was barely able to get one word through before the woman cut me off.
“I don’t think I can help you here, but I have some disability dating websites you can try,” she said. It’s not that I am opposed to them but all the ones I have tried are a) outdated, b) connect you with someone in the middle of another country, c) are filled with college students trying to complete an “interview of a disabled person” term paper or d) filled with people who have fantasies about making love to someone with artificial limbs.
I hear nothing back except for a few invites to wine tasting mixer and a square dancing singles night that are sponsored by her company.If she likes it, maybe she’ll invite me to meet her for a free consultation.Her prices are steep (,700), but I figured I could open her eyes about disability and dating.When I tried to ask what was wrong with dating a man with a disability, she said, “Come on, Jacob, you know.” I said I didn’t know.She continued, “It would look weird me dating someone like you.” Again when I asked why she simply said, “You know the answer.”My friend’s reluctance to address why it is odd for people with disabilities and able-bodied folks to date each other mirrors the tension around the issue that exists in the media.